Chelle and the Fig


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Greetings from Woodford Folk Festival

It’s been 16 years since I was last at Woodford Folk festival. I was pregnant with my first born and recall the purple and blue tie dyed petty coat I wore as a dress…and it wasn’t a ‘special’ Woodford outfit, it was my normal weekend attire back then…the lingering effects of the nineties low fi fashion statements. It was 2000…the end of the Millennium and the world-shattering prophesies didn’t occur in the dramatic way media fuss had been spruiking. I’m sure we could dig up some possible apocalyptic turning points just as we could every year, but at Woodford the big issues of the day are a distant planet. For a moment you can forget it all. The first born I mentioned snug under my tie dye belly in 2000 joined me, now 16, for his first post utero Woodford experience. 

Our neighbours whose son is good friends with J had invited him to stay with them. It took some logistical wrangling to meet them there and it took me overcoming my worry of the cost, the heat, the crowds and the holiday traffic, but eventually I was in. 
We hit the road early and made our way up the M1 to the Bruce highway surrendering our voices to a soundtrack curated by him…The Head and the Heart, Sarah Blasko, the Fratellis, Powder Finger and timeless favourites of Queen and Led Zeppelin. Our first stop was arriving in Woodford’s main strip for lunch…the only strip in Woodford, and we get a sense of the heat. It feels thick and creature like. 

Once at the site we drive past four different entrances and we’re confused already…we choose one in consultation over the phone with my neighbour and friend Lisa. Within seconds there are volunteers with high vis smiles and vests. They’re spirit of generosity is immense…nothing is too much trouble. They effortlessly come up with solutions to my misplaced ticket. Their happiness clearly immunes them from the dust and the heat. And from there we flit from one happy moment to the next. There’s people with dragon fly wings and goblin ears, in fact a whole hobbit like world of fantasy has been created. There’s green slopes where people are stretched out peacefully on rugs. There’s a labyrinth of love festooned by rainbow flags and pretty flowers. There’s a book club space. There’s cool mist sprinklers and delicious food; there’s a guy on a bike delivering love letters from the letter booth. There’s kind people everywhere who say things like “You go first.” And of course there’s the music Tinpan Orange, My Bubba, Montaigne, the Cassettes, Natalie Gillespie, Darren Percival and the beautiful men who participated in his work shop (including my son and his friend) and who unbeknownst to them drew in an audience, Lisa and I included, who sat mesmerised on the grass across from them under a big old tree as their voices tenderly carried across a kindly breeze “I Shall Be Released”. Of all the music this was my favourite…seeing these everyday men rise up to meet their beauty and their inner creative magic…held by Darren Percival and a small audience, most of us moved to tears.  

I packed up my tent and hugged Jardy goodbye who stayed till the end. I’m so glad I braved the heat, the crowds and the traffic. I’m so happy he gets to experience this beautiful, free spirited creative ecosystem. How sweet it can be when a world of possibility opens up, and lyrics like “any day now I shall be released…” speaks as much of the spirit breaking free from all that keeps it bound. 

As I drove out I stopped at a cafe in the Main Street for a quick bite. A young girl served me and I asked if she was going to the festival. She said she couldn’t afford it. My high became a little tempered then. The festival for a young girl from regional Queensland might just be the sliding door that makes the difference in opening up her world. Being held on her doorstep  I felt it was her right to be there, to have the experience and perhaps there was some accessible means that did not present itself to her. Surely a festival oozing this much love would consider a creative mentorship program a few months leading into it for the local young people, maybe it has one. I better look into it. In the mean time may the best of human spirit be with you in 2018 and beyond.

     


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My Mountain Home and The Places You’ll Go Post Card Series

It’s taken a while but I think I’ve finally completed my Murwillumbah Post Card Series (which you can find in our local Bowerbird gift shop and the Tweed Regional Art Gallery). I have made a few changes since the first instalment on wood, and I have added another mountain image which is the one you can see here. I have loved creating this Murwillumbah series and thought I would share a bit about what this town means to me. I left my home town Geelong when I was 21 to study in Rural Victoria and then Melbourne. Once I left Geelong nothing felt like home to me for a long time, not even when I went back to Geelong…probably because all my family had left. I felt untethered and often lonely. 

I moved to Brisbane and immediately felt a connection with the old Queenslanders and the lush tropical earth and then I met my main man David, who grew up here in Murwillumbah and my sense of home stretched across the border to this beautiful Caldera Valley. I commuted to Uki, where he lived, every second weekend for 6 months before we shacked up in Brisbane. Eventually we both started longing more for nature and by the time I was pregnant with our second baby we made our home here. 

Murwillumbah is one of those towns that enlivens my imagination and where I am never short of creative inspiration. I love the sense of two worlds colliding. The old world with strong threads to a timeless past…the Sugar Mill, art deco shop fronts, the Austral, the Regent, the Bundgalung Nation and it’s mountain, and those locals who have seen a generation of changes. And then there is the new wave of families looking for affordability and character in a town…who value the humble beauty of Murwillumbah, it’s trees and mountains, it’s good food and coffee and it’s proximity to all the culture anyone could ever need. I feel almost a perfect symmetry of the old and the new and that holds something lovely and steady which is hard to describe, but which I feel grateful to be a part of.

I hope my children will have a deep connection to this land and the three generations that came before them, their dad, their grandparents and great grand parents who first settled in Brays Creek in the mid 1930’s. My own family were so scattered and disconnected, I always longed for deeper roots. My mother-in-law Jan and father-in-law Gordon told stories about when they were kids and it took a whole day to get from Tyalgum to Murwillumbah and back again by horse and cart. They are deeply good people as is their son (my partner)…and maybe I’m being overly romantic, but I feel that’s got something to do with this place, some old fashioned values and the beauty of this land seeping into their soul.


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The Places You’ll Go Postcard Series Murwillumbah 

You’ll look up and down streets. Look ’em over with care. About some you will say, “I don’t choose to go there.” With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet, your too smart to go down any not so good street.” Dr Seuss

I have been squirrelling away at this little project- The Places You’ll Go Postcard Series, for a year or so…faffing about really as we do…sifting through so many photos to decide which ones will best suit the wood surface onto which they are printed. I finally settled on a few and here they are. These are of my lovely home town Murwillumbah. I love the timeless quality of a postcard, the hand written message it invites and the seventies sweetness. My dream is to take a few road trips over the years ahead and discover the quirky beauty in other towns and locations…forage about in back streets, in hidden nooks and crannies, in the hearts of locals who hold their own cherished stories of the places they call home.

You can find my very first series pictured here for purchase at the Twed Regional Art Gallery and at Murwillumbah’s favourite local gift shop The Bowerbird Emporium.


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She Aint no Wife She’s My Lover- a song and essay dedicated to my Nan Annie Wallace

Nan Wallace 2My man and I have been together for 18 years. Long enough to have built a small tower of pre-digital memories that live in bulging photo albums, gathering sentimental longing; long enough to have crossed a millennium and long enough to have made two little people who are now not so little. I always feel compelled to announce our children were both very much planned and wanted whenever I find myself in a situation saying the words, “No we are not married”. We spoke about making a baby before we spoke about a wedding. And despite my strong feminist ethos to never concur with an institution that legally bound women to a man’s property portfolio, there was a moment I faltered. After almost eight months in South America, so homesick for my family and friends, we began to fantasise about a homecoming celebration, an event where we could gather everyone we loved under one roof. We could make our own vows, in fact it could be completely pagan, not a legal formality uttered.
Flaunting an emerald ring from Columbia we finally arrived home and told my family. They promptly and repeatedly began using that dreaded word ‘Fiancé’. The sound of it made my toes curl…and then the stark realisation came that the next label would be wife. I had promised myself I would be no-ones wife. So our engagement lasted a day or two and we figured anyway that there were far more pressing matters that would benefit from the thousands of dollars a wedding would cost.
People would assume when we eventually did have children that we were married and would refer to me as a wife. When out of earshot Dave and I would laugh and say she aint no wife she’s my lover. Sometimes he actually did say it out loud for all to hear and I liked the sweetness of it’s sound and the truth of it. We were very much lovers and quite genius at finding ways to keep the spark in our relationship while being attentive (albeit free spirited), parents.
Thankfully we live in a time and place where it’s perfectly acceptable not to get married and unlike my mum’s era we have the means to control fertility so that our commitment can be based on free will rather than a way to escape social persecution. I know modern day marriage seems and possibly is a world apart from an institution that has its roots in the submission of women. It’s close enough though for me to recall the stories my Nan told about the impossibility of leaving her violent husband, my grandfather, whom I never met and whom she loved deeply despite his gaping indiscretions.
For all legal intent and purpose she was indentured to him. She had no legal rights to her children if she left, and relied on the good will of liberal minded people to accommodate her refuge. One such man owned the mattress factory where she worked and where she is pictured in the photo here. My Nan and one of her co-workers, who was also being “knocked around” by her husband, approached the owner to ask if they could stay in the small tea- room off the bathroom. He agreed and they did this until they could no longer be away from their children. When she told me this story I could feel her pride. She was no push over despite there being no acceptable way for her to leave her husband. In her own way she stood up to the harsh conventions of her day and she made her voice heard.
These were among the last conversations I had with her before she died. I remember once sitting in her lounge on chairs whose fifties upholstery didn’t match. We never usually sat there. We always sat on her round laminated table in a kitchen infused with pickled onion smells. I knew these conversations were the closest I would ever get to her. She was strong and private and apart from her prying granddaughter, unaccustomed to being a point of interest. She shared her confusion at how she could love someone who caused harm to her…”I didn’t just take it though”, she said, “I remember one day in the bedroom I threw every last thing at him on that bleeding dressing table, smashed most of it too”. She gathered herself at that point, as if her heart were piecing back together the shards on her bedroom floor. “He never broke my spirit you know, I never let him do that”. When she spoke that last sentence, it’s searing sincerity inscribed in me for the first time a sense that I was the granddaughter of a strong and extraordinary woman.
After my grandfather was gone she lived with a plump, gentle man and when he got suddenly sick and was rushed to intensive care, she was asked at admissions “are you his wife”? She said no, “A relative”? She said no. “What is your relationship to him then?” they asked. She was panicked and humiliated and she didn’t know what to call herself. As a result she began to consider marriage to her long time beau, but so deeply didn’t want this that she decided if such an incident occurred again she would just get good at faking it. So they bought an engagement and wedding ring and she ended up wearing them most of the time. I imagined her quietly triumphant that she still had it in her to outsmart one of the indelible bastions of a patriarchal society.
In 1999 she was hospitalized for an aggressive brain tumor. I was pining on the other side of the world. My mum, her daughter in law, was keeping a bedside vigil. She had ducked out for lunch when my Nan died. The nurse later told mum that she couldn’t get the wedding ring off her finger. She explained that as she twisted and turned the ring she began to enquire whom it was for. It wasn’t until the nurse said my mum’s name that it slid effortlessly off. My mum with her strong intuitive sense believed it was always meant for me. So now I wear my Nan’s elicit wedding band on my left ring finger, just as she did.
I wear it in honour of her unstoppable spirit, which by virtue lives on in me and in my daughter. I wear it because to me it symbolizes, at least in my own female lineage, a circle of completion. The private battles of women like my grandmother and my mother, and the political warriors of their respective generations, not only paved the way for me and other women to truly believe we could do anything we wanted, they also provided the means. With this has come a duty to do those women proud. Not with any grandiose gestures of achievement, but just to nurture and cherish my independence and the unique expression of my authentic inner world and the freedoms they could barely even imagine. I want my daughter to take this for granted, but to also know in her bones these rights were hard fought for and great sacrifices made, and that there will always be more to do. It may be presumptuous to hope my Nan’s spirit is at peace and complete knowing that part of her lived on, well that in fact a part of her thrived after she took her last breath in that hospital room. I long for that to be true though.


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We Give Thanks for Our Friends- A song called New Day

We Give Thanks for Our Friends
We give thanks for our friends
Our dear friends
We anger each other;
We fail each other.
We share this sad earth, this tender life,
this precious time.
Such richness. Such wildness.
Together we are blown about.
Together we are dragged along.
All this delight.
All this suffering.
All this forgiving life.
We hold it together
(Michael Leunig)

I read this poem by Leunig recently and I felt the courage to post a song I wrote for a friend almost two years ago (with stunning violin by Sarah Holmes). It was written when I was in the throws of a heartbreaking event that occurred between us. It was a final and tangible layer to deeper more subtle flaws, which had come to unsteady our relationship. The emotions around this unhinged me and played out in slow motion over months, revealing new and varied angles of hurt. It was real for me, but I can also see now it was a story I chose to zoom in on, while permitting other parts of my world to slip out of focus. I felt the stubbornness of my father fuming inside me, which is ironic because the damage that waged has continued to this day and he is still absent from my life. I so didn’t want to be that person. The other irony was that my friend and I are both strong, conscious women. We believe deeply in Sisterhood and yet jealousy and competition, two words that allude to something shallow, prevailed. It wasn’t shallow though. It was deep and ancient…it was our creative essence, tenderly reaching out, grasping for expression and grasping to be honoured. So much stands in the way- tall poppies, debilitating self- judgment and the judgement from those we love, failure, rejection, humiliation, vulnerabilities too fragile to expose. A feather could take down such struggling little dreams. Potential threats are every-where and our lizard-brain steps in. Under this spell or something like it my friend and I stole each other’s beauty in ways that looked subtle on the surface- a mood, a look, a casual slight, silence- but which actually cut concisely to the core of us at a time when we perhaps needed more love than ever. When it reached it’s crisis the wounded part of me wanted to give up for good. Perhaps my friend felt the same. We didn’t though. We were humbled and sad and we took the long, winding and excruciatingly truthful road back to love. There was no guarantee we would reach it. I think we both doubted that we would with such a swamp of pain between us. And yet we didn’t quit. We kept turning up for each other. My friend sat steadfast in the line of fire as I intermittently over months emptied my heartache and accusations. Never once did she look exasperated or imply that I should move on. I could barely stomach the sound of my own droning complaints, which over time made me sharply aware of her patience and compassion. Like all of us -and the relationships that spring from our fragile hopes to be loved and held -we/they are imperfect. For me this very imperfection, this rupture and my friend’s love held within it an opportunity to stay present with the truth in pain; to move beyond bruised ego and false pride, and sit in emotions that feel ugly and sometimes shameful. To have another sit with us in that space, to feel their love and presence while communing with our own shadows is a dear gift. The mirror it offers reflects the way to our own self-love, nurturing our inner solace and helping us move through this blustery, often fickle world with more ease, trust and grace. The evening featured in this song was one moment in our healing, but much more was needed. We allowed it to be whatever it was, we allowed it to take whatever time it took. Eventually love dwindled back, the hurt dwindled away and here I sit with my mended heart.


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The Light Keeper…Reflections on my new song


Be a loner
That gives you time to wonder,
To search for the truth.
Have holy curiosity
Make your life worth living.
Albert Einstein

What a radical statement this is. I wonder Albert if you would still think this way in our new world of hyper manic social foraging. My heart takes deep rest in your words, and I am reminded of my own true source of connectedness, which is fed by snatches of inner solitude, and time that moves slowly enough to breath in life’s wonder and everyday beauty. To be truly present in it’s simplicity. To hold people dear, but lightly enough so as not to hem them in. Birds have become the most recent object of my affections. My backyard is full of them flitting and chirping, being perfect in sunny tree tops. Lately I get lost in their world with my zoom lens and my mind with it’s many stories is gloriously still. I am a seeker, searching for the place where I am most alive and most connected to my intuitive sensibilities and its little signs about what path to take next. I have a fantasy (or maybe it’s my spiritual ideology) that in the ether of souls, before we are born, a mysterious grandmother ordains each of us with a divine blueprint. Her only advice on how to find it is… “you must trust yourself”. “When you finally embody it, you will know”, she says, “the moon and the stars and the planets will all align, you will take your place in the order of things and everything from then on will be right and perfect. There will be no more self doubt, no more avoiding what you were sent here to do, no more life of convenience or hiding under a bushel. You will step into your most cherished self, you will emanate love and courage, and everything you do will be necessary for a better world because it will have your full inspired attention.”….”Most importantly you will inspire others to do the same, and as each person takes their rightful place, becoming their most cherished selves, the earth’s force field will radiate with more and more light and love . It’s abundant and glorious and”…..you get the picture.

“Righto Gran that sounds easy enough”, is my reply. Jeeze so little did I know.

It’s been a few decades since I was in the ether of souls, and the journey continues. I have approached it with overthinking (part of the problem); talked about it in round about ways, until my words, and their annoying inadequacy tie me in knots; sought counsel from other people, most as confused as me. I’ve scaled back the fantasy to something more achievable, mainly edited out the bit about no more self doubt. I reckon that’s just one humans have to live with…sorry Gran.

I’m following my intuitive sensibilities. I think Albert was onto something, I think the birds are onto something too.

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